Ever Googled “weight loss tips”? (Goodness, please don’t.) You’ll find so many lists, it’ll make your head spin. 26 Weight Loss Tips for Women, 21 Weight Loss Tips for Women, 85 Weight Loss Tips for Women…
Who has time for this?
PSA: If I ever have a problem, never tell me you have eighty five solutions.
If I need to implement that many things, I’m instantly overwhelmed, my mind is already telling me it’s too hard, and I walk away totally defeated.
Not exactly the start to a journey you were already dreading.
I was a lightweight rower for over a decade. Before you think I’ve just taken a 180 on this story, stay with me. Being a lightweight meant I had to step on a scale before every race - whether that was at a dinky local race or the Olympic Games. If I was over the limit by even a tenth of a pound, my team was disqualified.
Kinda like wrestling, but...not.
I navigated weight loss for weeks leading up to each race by tracking everything I put in my mouth and making sure I fueled my body well. If I was going to win, it had to be sustainable (read: no throwing up, sweat running, or starvation). I weighed in at races over 250 times throughout my career.
The result: I got good at sustainable weight loss. Really good.
In 2013, I started coaching women on weight loss. And you know the first thing I realized?
Women are beat down by the weight loss industry.
Why wouldn’t we be? We’re told there are rules for successful weight loss. Do this, don’t do that. Eat breakfast, don’t eat snacks. Eat paleo, don’t go keto. Eat keto, not paleo. It’ll make your eyes glaze over in about the time it takes Google to return your “weight loss tips” search result.
Seriously, who created these weird rules we feel forced to navigate but never seem to work?
And why isn’t there an authority telling us what REAL LIFE, SUSTAINABLE weight loss is supposed to look like?
I’m here to show you how.
I’ve helped hundreds of women lose weight through my transformational programs. In a sea of weight loss tips for women, this #1 tip stands above them all. It’s the one that has helped the majority of my clients find long-term success.
Ready for it?
Let go of the idea of perfection.
Let go of the idea that you’re going to eat perfectly.
Let go of the idea that you won’t mess up.
Let go of the idea that you won’t give in to some cravings.
Let go of the idea that you have to love salads in order to be successful.
Change your mindset from “I need to do this perfectly in order to be successful” to “I just gotta take one step at a time.”
If you’re shaking your head, rolling your eyes, and thinking that never works, I’m telling you: this is the way to be successful.
It’s how I went from being a chubby kid to an Olympic athlete. It’s how the women I work with have lost 25, 40, or 60 pounds and kept it off.
This powerful mindset shift allows you to make REAL progress, rather than sabotaging yourself.
If you’ve been around here before, you know I’m all about actionable advice, not just fluff. (and I’m definitely not here to give you 85 weight loss tips!).
So let’s get to work. How do you actually let go of the idea of being all-or-nothing with weight loss?
01. Recognize that weight loss is a journey.
Ever done something big in your life? Of course you have. You’ve built a career, gotten married, or had kids. You’ve planned a wedding, led a company, or championed a cause.
Did you show up on your first day of your new job expecting to be the CEO? Of course not. You showed up, willing to learn, knowing you had to hone your skills. And then you came back, day after day.
Weight loss is no different.
Realistically, none of us should be masters when we first try a new skill. We should be bad at it; it’s our first time trying! Being a beginner is a skill in itself.
If you go as far as expecting you’ll be bad at this new thing you’re trying (like weight loss), you create a world where the moment you fail, you don’t throw your hands in the air and give up. Instead of thinking, “I knew it. I can’t do this,” you say, “ok, of course I messed this up. I’m just starting. Lemme just build and learn every step of the way.”
When I first began my rowing career, I never even had the idea that I was going to be a great athlete, and that took all the pressure off. I accepted that I would fail on a daily basis. I kept showing up to practice every day, trying to get a little better each day. Stack many days like this in a row, and great things will happen.
To my perfectionistic sisters shaking their heads: I know this goes against everything you know. Why would you expect failure? It feels backwards, like you’re lowering your standards.
Speaking as the queen perfectionist (you know, the one who straightens out the crooked picture frames in other peoples’ houses), I don’t want you to lower your standards when it comes to your goals. I want you to go for Olympic sized goals. I’m simply suggesting you give yourself grace for how the journey plays out and allow yourself space to learn as you go.
So don’t show up on day 1 expecting to rock it.
Show up with eyes wide open, willing to learn, and understanding that you’re in it for the long haul.
If you do this, getting to your ideal weight won’t be as hard as you think. I promise.
02. Ask yourself what the next step is.
Instead of feeling overwhelmed by #allthethings related to weight loss (there are so, so many), ask yourself:
“What’s ONE THING I can do right now to move myself towards my goal?”
It doesn’t have to be revolutionary. Just think about making your next food choice 1% better.
Maybe you make part of your meal instead of ordering 100% of it from a restaurant. Or stop eating when you’re full after one meal today - or just don’t eat until you’re over stuffed. Or go for sparkling water instead of another can of soda. Maybe you try a different side at your next BBQ.
You don’t have to be a champion on day 1, or even on day 100. By letting go of perfection, you open yourself up to progress. That’s what will make you successful in the long run.
Now I want to hear from you: have you built the skill of being a beginner in another area of your life? How did you become successful at it?
What’s your next step towards reaching your ideal weight + health?